AND Say It Again

June 4th, 2017

It’s been just over eight years of writing this blog every week. I usually sit down and wait to see what appears. I am laughing because I originally wrote an entry for this week, read it to my friend who gives the thumbs up or down to publish what I write each week, and she told me I had written the same essential message two weeks ago.

So I stepped back to see what wanted expression this week. AND then I realized that rather than writing a new AND, I was being reminded to do something that I have done at least once each year for the past eight years. AND that is, to pause to reprint my first entry from 2009 which explains why this blog is called, “And.” So here it is: Read the rest of this entry »

AND Remember With Kindness

May 28th, 2017

On this Memorial Day, when we pause to remember the sacrifices of those who have fought for the values of freedom and equality, may we also remember those who have returned from war with emotional and physical scars. For those of us who get to live in a country with many rights and freedoms, may we also remember the obligation to participate in creating the conditions at home that embrace and include those who need our help today.

Each of us is in a position to pause to see the person behind the uniform. Who carries the scars underneath? Who might need food, medical care, or a home? Are we creating the society, communities, neighborhoods at home that live the values for which others have given their lives? Read the rest of this entry »

AND Bring Your Inner Sunshine to the World

May 21st, 2017

All week long, as I talked with clients on this coast or the other, I could hear the smiles in their voices. No matter how crazy their worlds, how fearful they are about their organization or bigger political and social issues, they were smiling. Why? Because for the first time in awhile, the sun was out and the temperatures were warmer than they have been for most of the spring.

Think about it! If one day of sunshine can change a life view, produce a level of hope and optimism in a world of hurt, just imagine what a smile, warm greeting, or hug could do to the hopefulness and optimism of people feeling burdened by illness, or less than generous political decisions, corporate behaviors, or family dynamics…every day. Read the rest of this entry »

AND Thank You Mom

May 14th, 2017

Just one Sunday in May to recognize the role of Mom played by women at home, at work, and in virtually every context we can imagine.

Just one full day to pause, prioritize Mom, and acknowledge the sacrifice, love, and challenges she faced when she said yes to serving as Mom.

Just three small letters M-O-M, containing a world of emotion, expectation, and memories.

Our times are desperate for the feminine values of inclusion, deep listening, compassion, and the capacity to hold the long view while dealing with whatever life presents in the moment. AND although the role of mother has been defined by society, religions, and media, each woman, who chooses to serve as a mom, brings her own gifts, perspectives and expectations. Read the rest of this entry »

AND Behold the Beauty of the Moment

May 7th, 2017

Our worlds are always unfolding moment by moment. In our busyness, we often miss the moments because we are so distracted by the voices in our heads yammering at us. Yet, when we consciously choose to breathe and pause to see what is going on in any given moment, we make ourselves present to receive the gift of that moment.

One evening last week, while washing the dishes at the kitchen sink, I peeked out the window to see a gorgeous rainbow emerging through the clouds, lingering over the horizon and appearing to hide behind the ocean where it met the sky. Leaving the windows when the colors faded, I retreated to the living room. Read the rest of this entry »

AND Each Light Has a Role in Lighting the Way

April 30th, 2017

The fog was dense. Trees looked like shadows, vaguely outlined against the thick soupy background. I noticed that the thick fog caused me to drive more slowly and pay more attention to the space immediately in front of the car, since I could not see far ahead of me on the road.

In that moment, I was struck by how life can sometimes be like driving through fog. The headlights are not really much use for navigating in fog. Fog lights, which focus on the pavement immediately ahead, offer the needed clarity to continue, as they light the road just ahead…much like moving forward in life one step at a time. Read the rest of this entry »

AND Look to Nature for Insight

April 23rd, 2017

On a walk past the marsh last week, I could see the beautiful blue heron, as it blended in with the colors of early spring. The grasses are still more brown than green in the marsh and everything is only slightly more colorful than a painting done in sepia ink. Yet with conscious focus, I could make out the majestic profile of the heron against the distant sky.

AND I found myself wondering what this wonderful bird had to teach. The lesson of blending in with surroundings, not standing out while still standing strong seemed a worthy insight from this beautiful bird. Often associated with unconventional logic, since its structure might suggest this bird would have difficulty flying, the blue heron is, indeed, a magnificent sight when it spreads its wings and flies. Yet, it blends in so well with the colors of its habitat, it is free to roam about without much fanfare. Read the rest of this entry »

AND Rise Up

April 16th, 2017

Easter is a holiday celebrated by people of the Christian faith worldwide. The spirit of the holiday is about rising up, going beyond the world of suffering and carnage, in order to shine light that might guide its people to do the same. Without too much attachment to the religious reference of the holy day, people of any faith, including faith in life itself, can recognize the call to rise above behaviors and ethics in this world that do not feed our oneness and humanity. Read the rest of this entry »

AND Attune to the Rhythm of Nature

April 9th, 2017

Anne Morrow Lindbergh wrote in her book, Gift from the Sea, that the ocean teaches patience, constancy, and faith. In our crazy and turbulent times, a little patience, constancy and faith might be just what the doctor ordered.

No matter what crazy tweets, news reports, or political agendas fill the media, the ocean continues its rhythm of ebb and flow. Each new wave moves towards the shore. Each undertow returns the water back to its source, after it has deposited its treasures on the sand.

Beachgoers, who have slowed the pace of their lives to align with the pace and breath of nature recognize the rocks, shells, and seaweed for the treasures they are and often pause to pick up a memento to take home as reminders of a quieter, natural rhythm of life. Each treasure is recognizes as temporary, something the tide may take back on its next visit, and the time to pause is now, while they lay open on the shore. Read the rest of this entry »

AND Add a Little Madness for Fun

April 2nd, 2017

March Madness is a term used to describe the crazy pace of tournament games for collegiate basketball, both men’s and women’s. And as a fan of Connecticut women’s basketball, I have been enjoying the frenzy of games, complete with anticipation, excitement at the possibility of new records and success for talented and hardworking athletes, and thoroughly enjoying the insights into the people behind the athletic accomplishments. The whole thing is just plain fun! Read the rest of this entry »