AND Stop for a Moment

February 19th, 2017

Two different streams of thought from two wildly different sources came together for me. In one case, during the course of a conversation with a client, I was struck by her description of a group of people who “have more money than time.”

The description brought me back to how we choose to invest our precious life force. In the willingness to work hard and do well, we may get caught in seductive thinking that causes us to lose touch with how much is enough. And when we do, we unwittingly delegate the activities of maintaining our lives to others.

Now while there is no inherent problem with having others wash our cars, clean our homes, landscape our lawns, paint our houses, shovel our snow and the like, I am struck by how much we lose touch with physical activities that are a part of the lives we choose for ourselves. And the ability to delegate these things usually takes money. Read the rest of this entry »

AND Feed the World Some Love

February 12th, 2017

Valentine’s Day is a good reminder to send flowers, chocolate, and make time to let others know you love them. For that matter, any day is a good time to let others know that you love them. (I would also vote for the chocolate being sent every day.)

The beauty of love is that all of us have it encoded in our hearts. The question is whether we will feed the love instead of the fear. Will we stop our routines to love and serve the vulnerable and rejected? Will we feed the hungry and overlooked members of our communities? Will we choose to celebrate the pure love in the face of each new baby, and remember that that is who we once were? Read the rest of this entry »

AND Invest Your Energy Well

February 5th, 2017

I came across the following quote by Mary Schmich last week that says,

Families are ecosystems. Each life grows in response to the lives around it.

As I was reflecting on what is going on in our country in terms of leadership decisions at the federal and local levels and in our large corporations, this quote took on more importance. Families refers to more than our biological families. It may help to think more broadly of the term, as it also refers to colleagues at work, neighbors in our communities, and more extended networks. Read the rest of this entry »

AND Honor the Man

January 29th, 2017

This week I want to pause to introduce you to a man I honor and celebrate. He is a man who lives from his heart. He has helped countless numbers of people in all kinds of ways, and he continues to look for the best in people, no matter the circumstances.

He is a wise man, who loves nature and its beauty. He is at home in his garden and may need to be reminded that the sun has set and he needs to leave the yard and garden for the next day, when it is light again.

He hasn’t used his oven since his wife passed away, instead preferring to store small bags of chips in it, as treats for neighborhood kids. He makes homemade soup, having taught himself to cook. AND he doesn’t make one quart. He makes six or seven or more to share with neighbors. Read the rest of this entry »

AND Celebrate Excellence in Its Many Forms

January 22nd, 2017

The Connecticut Women Huskies basketball team surpassed a record last week that no other basketball team, men’s or women’s, has ever surpassed. AND they then surpassed the record again in the next game. AND the major radio and television networks never covered the games, talking instead about the upcoming, not-yet-occurring men’s sporting events.

Are we afraid of excellence in this country? Do we prefer the come-from-behind victories where the best team is toppled by the underdog over the continuous wins of an excellent team? Why are the Cubs a feel-good team and their win deservedly celebrated for days when the number one women’s basketball team is pushed aside and not given the same attention? Read the rest of this entry »

AND When You See, Share the Gift

January 15th, 2017

In support of making 2017 a year to find ways to transform darkness into light and shine light wherever we find ourselves, I was particular struck by something that happened at The Golden Globes last week. If you missed the show, there is a wonderful thirteen minute piece on YouTube documenting what I write about below.

Meryl Streep was selected to receive a Life Achievement Award for her brilliance as an actress over the course of her career to date. AND the person who presented her to those in attendance was the actress, Viola Davis. Davis told a story of working with Streep on a film, of admiring her while being simultaneously intimidated by her talent, and of wanting to say something to Streep at the time and of not doing so. AND she chose to use the Golden Globes’ moment to share the Meryl Streep that she had seen then and sees today. Read the rest of this entry »

AND Find Your Way to Shine Your Light

January 8th, 2017

As I was looking at the stars that shone over the marsh, I was struck by how each one sparkled and seemed to dance in the night sky. Each one took its unique place in the constellations that lit the sky. AND each one brought a unique light. AND the quiet of the night lit by these individual lights was both heartwarming and breathtaking. Read the rest of this entry »

AND Light the Way to Dreams for 2017

January 1st, 2017

As we welcome the New Year, we say goodbye to the one we leave behind. The year we leave behind becomes the foundation on which to build our dreams for the incoming year.

For me, 2016 highlighted the need for listening and seeking to understand different approaches and points of view in our world. The divisiveness and pure nastiness in our own country became more evident through a particularly ugly political process. At the same time, there were acts of kindness and generosity that occurred throughout the year, all of them worthy of reflection and celebration. Read the rest of this entry »

AND Celebrate the Spirit of Christmas

December 25th, 2016

As the last entry for 2016, this week’s invitation is to reflect on the power of the message and intention behind words. Our most recent election has left many deflated, angry, or scared by the rhetoric of the winner. AND this week is Christmas. How might we offer a gift of reconciliation, celebration, and kindness to all as a healing step and a reminder to look beyond the words?

The words that stand out for me are “Spirit of Christmas.” At the same time as Christians are celebrating Christmas, Jews are celebrating Hanukkah. Regardless of the name of the holiday you celebrate, there is a spirit of the season that is the true source of celebration and inspiration. Read the rest of this entry »

AND Give and Take AND Share

December 18th, 2016

In this season of gifting, I find myself reflecting on three different relationships with gifts. One is giving. Giving gifts is something that typically fills the giver more than receiving gifts. The sense of delight created by giving to others is a major emotional fill up for those who love to give.

The challenge for those who love to give is often that they are less willing to receive. In fact, for some givers, who are learning to create healthier relationships in their lives, learning to see receiving as a gift they give to the others is the most natural way to help them learn to create more balanced relationships. Read the rest of this entry »